MOOD-TALK: gloom vs. joy

What is the essential difference between gloom and joy.  There are mighty few among us who could not answer that.  At least they might answer, “well, I can feel the difference.”

Gloom will feel dark, you will find it difficult to raise your head and your eyes.  You might not feel like talking very much and there are times when you will feel subjectively that you want to be angry.  You will feel despondent.  You will feel lethargic, you will feel depressed and unengaged, experiencing yourself as not having the energy necessary to complete even the most basic of life-giving task.  You may feel like eating but unable to muster the energy to make some healthy food.  You will probably turn to easy-junk food as it is readily available, satisfies a craving in the moment and does not require vitality to make it.  You will feel as if you have no vitality, no real desire and you may well feel like death is at least an answer to how difficult life has become to manage.

A gloomy state raises all kinds of question about self worth, confidence and resourcefulness.  You may not exactly feel like killing yourself, although that is also possible, but rather you will be thinking of how much easier it would be if you were not alive.

I am sure that we could go on describing objective and subjective conditions that indicate the state of “gloom.”

Let’s turn for a moment to the opposite state on the spectrum of human emotion, “Joy”

Joy, by contrast, is a state of mild euphoria.  It is a state of well-being and a state of gladness, glee and satisfaction.  It is the state of being described in the Bible as paradise in the Garden of Eden.  Joy is calming, the hue of joy is light and bright and   kind of sings along with life. Joy is sometimes intense and other times very quiet.  The kind of quiet one might experience from rocking a sleeping baby, or petting a loyal dog.

Moods are essentially different from feelings in that a mood is more pervasive it encompasses almost the entirely of who we are, whereas a feeling intrudes into our moods, sometimes with accuracy of a sharp knife and other times it washes over us like a warm wave on a sandy beach on a sunny day.  Feelings tend to be more fleeting that a mood and they tend to be more reactive to events outside of us or to sensations inside of us.  But essentially a feeling is more of a reaction than is a mood.  A mood can permeate our lives and take us over at a deeply unconsciously level in such a way that we not longer think that the mood is happening to us; instead we believe the we are the mood or it is us.  Moods can last decades.

Examples:  I am in such a crappy mood, I am glad I got to hear that song.  We can be in a bad mood and a feeling or an event that allows us to generate a feeling will happen.  I was in such a good mood, I got real angry when you said that.   I want us to know the difference between a mood and a feeling because it is important to our capacity to manifest what we want in life to make sure that we know something about the energy that we are wishing with.  When we speak of getting what we want in life, some people get very skeptical and begin to think that we are talking about magic or hocus-pocus.  They can not imagine that we are staying within the realm of possibility and that we can actually measure this phenomena.

There really is no magic and no mystery to the Law of Attraction.  I think it may well have suffered a poor rating among some professionals because of the language and the glossy paper and the colorful jargon used to describe the event.  But the Law of Attraction is really no different than the Libidinal drive discussed in the science of psychoanalysis.  Manifesting or getting what we want and need from life has been the goal of many systems in the history of civilization.  Buddhism, the tri-religions of the middle east, and mysticism in the middle ages all went after the kind of thing that the Law of Attraction proposes to go after.

The major difference seems to lie in the placement of the self.  In newer age language the self is at the very core of vitality.  We speak of co-creating as a way to identify with the centrality of the deity.  We are central to our life.  In the ancient texts we are ancillary to creation, just one of the items created during those seven days that God decided to create the Universe.  In most of ancient religion we are acted upon.  The Book of Job, an old testament book of the Bible is all about a devout follower who is acted upon by God in such a way as he gets Job to be subservient to the Lord.  In the story of Abraham and Isaac, the Lord demand proof of loyalty.

The point is that Man was not of supreme importance, God was.  In the newer age psychology although spirituality is a central component, it is spoken about in almost a secular humanism kind of fashion.  Of central importance is Man’s ability to be a resource to himself, to be able to navigate the universe so that things and ideas and conditions that he wants and needs become available because of how he positions himself to receive these gifts.  Grace is a kind of well-being and a source of soothing and comfort.  Not to be confused with the old idea of selfishness, wanting for oneself is the necessary condition in order to be available to our neighbors, friends, community, and family.

Going after what is wanted is the essence of the drive.  It is the libidinal drive made entirely conscious.  It is the pleasure principle as a means of growing sustainability and community and compassion and generosity.  All of these flow from a strong sense of knowing who one is and of not being afraid to say and be as strong and as unbearable or vulnerable as one needs to be.

As long as we can identify gloom from joy we are able to navigate with our emotions.  A simple checking in with oneself to determine–am I happy, am I sad, angry, fearful, bored, gloomy, depressed, glad, joyful, as all that is needed to register where we are in relation to feeling good or feeling bad.

The fact of the feeling determining the direction that we are going in is novel to psychology.  It is as if our feelings are weather-vanes and they point the direction that we are going.  The more we practice a deliberate intent to be feeling good the more our emotional compass points us in the direction of getting more of what we need to continue to be a healthy and a contributing member of the community.

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7 comments on “MOOD-TALK: gloom vs. joy

  1. claudia luiz says:

    Wow – I learned so much from this. I love the idea of starting with feelings — moods — to engage the laws of attraction – and what they mean.

  2. Heisenberg's Eyes says:

    There are no simplistic explanations for our moods, joyful or otherwise. We can ‘borrow trouble’, or bask in blissful ignorance. I have asserted that no one MAKES anyone happy. I shall stand by that assertion.
    I am not qualified to discuss psychological or psychiatric parameters. So, I won’t try to fake it.

    • aldussault says:

      HOW DO YOU COME ABOUT THE IDEA THAT SOMEONE CAN NOT MAKE SOMEONE ELSE HAPPY?

      • Heisenberg's Eyes says:

        Well, let me see if I can elaborate. Your caps emphasis seems to show you have very strong feelings/opinions about this. The time-honored wisdom, to quote the old song,says: make someone happy, make just one someone happy, and you will be happy too.

        This is a romantic notion and has disillusioned many for millennia. It makes good press and sells a lot of chocolates and valentines, but that is what is intended by the folks who make chocolate and valentines. Here’s what I think—you may strongly disagree, but that’s OK with me:

        As individuals, we must first be happy with ourselves; comfortable within our own skin and generally content with the cards we have been dealt. If all of this is well met,we can share our life with others, romantically, platonically, familiarly and they will BE happy knowing us for who we are, warts, scars, boils and all. Because we are the real deal;we pull no soap opera stunts; and we treat our lovers, friends and family with due respect and admiration.

        Now, if this MAKES them happy (or happier than they might have otherwise been), then perhaps it meets the test. You may believe this mere semantics or that my view is detached from reality. That’s fine with me—we can disagree. Reasonable minds do that all the time. I raise a lot of eyebrows with my take on things. Am happy to do so,
        Cordially, HE.

      • aldussault says:

        On the contrary, I agree with you For me, I have found the my happiness In life can be enhanced, dare I say, even multiplied when The criteria you set above is met and You also find love in an Other

  3. As Esther Hicks, author of “Ask and It Is Given,” puts it, your emotions are your guidance system to whether or not you are harnessing the Law of Attraction. The better you feel, the closer you are to manifesting that which you want. The worse you feel, the more distant you are from that.

    About 4 years ago, I walked into a Barnes and Noble bookstore and as I passed the threshold, I breathed a deep breath in through my crown chakra and asked the Universe to take me to the book I needed the most at that moment. I happened to get “Ask and It Is Given.” I didn’t even look at it, I picked it up, took it to the register and left. When I got to my car, I opened up the book and started reading. Wow, I had tears as I sat there in my car, having read the first chapter.

    Thank you for this post, it is a reaffirmation of the power of your emotional guidance system.

    Peace,

    Katheryn L. Olsen
    “Coach Kat”
    Psychic Life Coach
    Law of Attraction Counselor and Advisor
    http://www.PsychicChatOnlineWithKat.com

    • aldussault says:

      it is always so welcomed to hear that some one is encouraged by the guidance that our emotions can be, because so frequently instead of guidance they appear instead as overwhelming obstacles that must be overcome in order to go on with life; on the contrary the guidance from within is a mystical guidance and it is never wrong.

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