We pretty much are in control of our thoughts. We act in such a way to allow life to be easy, or we act to resist life and it becomes hard.. Our emotions in the moment tell us which we are engaging in. Once we finally get it–really get it, that it is our bad feeling thoughts that keep us down, and it is our good feelings thoughts that lift us up, we have a choice.
Our ego from the perspective of habit will move toward that which we have always done. If we have believed that we need to work hard for what we want–we will continue to believe that and therefore do only those things that are hard to do.
At any given time we can check in with ourselves and ask–are the thought I am having right now feeling good or feeling bad….it can be that simple to start the process. Ultimately we have to be exceptionally deliberate about what thought we choose to entertain. And in time we see almost right away that when we entertain a bad feeling thought–(oh that A-hole, look at his mess, he never pays attention to me, I know she does not like me, i will never retire and still be able to keep in touch with my patients). The list is as long as we have resistances…If you find yourself in a thought that does not feel good—pause — stop the thought, then begin to think about something that would give you pleasure to have.