I wonder as I write these essays if I will ever figure out if anyone is reading them. Then, of the clear blue (or grey) if you happen to be from New England, there is a response. Yet I am not quite satisfied so I am changing my approach to this particular blog-roll. My other blogs will continue to be written as in the past, but I want to try to be more professorial in my FreeAssociation blog.
By that I mean that i would like to conduct this blog more like a classroom than like a lecture. To that end I am going to ask questions and ask you, my readers to do your very best at answering the questions so that we can establish a dialogue through this new internet connectivity.
Connectivity and belonging remain among the most important social standards that we have. If we do not feel that we belong, we squeeze ourselves and twist ourselves into all manners of shape in order to garner a semblance of belonging. The question that I have in mind for us to discuss has to do with the capacity that we have to belong. What does it mean to you to feel like you belong? Do you feel like you belong or do you feel like you attempt to have people like you and you come away feeling unknown or unseen?
If you refer back to the previous blog on the blog-roll and read the section on adequacy and self-respect and we add to that idea that
we can only really love if we love ourselves first–then we have a formula for well-being. We have a template to follow,authentic if we believe that only authentic behavior will bring us the peace and the soothing that we need, then we might have a jump on how we get the world to look like what we need it to look like.
Dr. A. L. Dussault, Mindfulness in Psychoanalysis